Communicating is crucial and essential even in one's everyday life. Of course, as a human being, we must communicate with each other or else we must suffer boredom to the maximum level, right? We communicate to express our feelings (i.e. anger, happiness, disappointment) just to make sure that we are 'reachable' with the others. And for sure, speaking is definitely our first option.
We talk about many things daily. Experts said that women will speak 10, 000 words a day while men, they will speak a little lesser than us, within the range of 3000-4000 words a day. However, people tend to speak everything that cross their mind, especially with the one they feel comfortable with. They speak and sometimes they forget that even those who are so nice with them have feelings. They tend to ignore that very fact.
Im not trying to be closed minded. "Oh come on, Dini. Enough already. It is 2015 and it is people's freedom to say anything they want!" Yeah, sure. But anything? Do you mean ANYTHING? No honey, no. Not anything. Not everything. Can we just have second thoughts about what we're going to say. About the words that will vomit out of our own mouths? You cannot expect people to truly understand you and will not get hurt with what that you're about to say. No, you cannot.
Some thoughts are so powerful, that they may become words. And words are more sharp than the blades, right? We speak as how we see fit, without considering the reaction, abandoning the consequences, forgetting the result. One of the bad result that may come out from bad mouth is that, people will have low self-esteem and feel bad about themselves. For example, one of your friends are about to ask you something very basic about your religion, and as someone with the higher knowledge, of course you know the answer. But instead of just directly answer their questions, you asked them "Oh good Lord, this is so basic. You don't even know about this?? Shame on you..." You smirked at your friend. And can you imagine the result? That very friend is trying their hard to change to someone better, but instead, they give up already listening to your answers.
Moral of the story, be careful with your words. Even to your dearest person. They hurt because the care. But you hurt them, because you don't.
**And yes, even orang paling tinggi dengan ilmu agama pun bukan Malaikat. Mereka akan buat salah. Mereka akan buat silap. Try to forgive them and just let things go. Forgive, but never forget.
*** And awak yang berilmu, jangan buat orang lain rasa rendah diri sampai cium tanah, cuma sebab ilmu awak setinggi tumit kasut adik aku. Ada yang lagi berilmu dari kau, dan kau tak sepatutnya bangga dengan ilmu yang kau ada...
**** Manusia tak pernah lari dari perasaan riak dan takbur kan. Dalam gaya mereka, dalam tingkah laku mereka, dan yang paling ketara, dalam percakapan dan perbualan mereka. Riyyak tak bawak kau gi mane-mane pun...
